Wednesdays are a busy day for us. At work, I usually have 2-3 extra meetings...my oldest has music lessons late after school...my husband stays at work until it's time to pick him up....it's double coupon day at the grocery...the list goes on. But a couple months ago, I carved out a little piece of Wednesday that I have come to cherish.
I take my youngest son, my "good helper", to the grocery store with me, and I make that time about being together. For us, attachment is an ongoing, but deepening, process, and Wednesdays at Rainbow it's just me and Suki.
Suki sits in the cart, and we are face to face the whole time. In the 45 minutes or so it takes us to wind through the aisles, we talk about our days, Suki points out all the new and interesting signage or products. Sometimes he asks me about the food or people we see. A lot of time he lets me know all the things he loves to eat. We might hold hands or tickle each other. That's it. Just a mom and her son, weaving tighter the bond that holds us close.
Today, as I focused on unloading and then bagging our goods, a woman behind us in line started to talk to Suki. You know the type. Chatty, a little pushy, probably doesn't have kids. She asked if he was helping me, if that was Spiderman on his pants, if he was holding the list. And he stared at her in silence until I intervened and told her he was following instructions not to talk to strangers. I told him how proud I was of him, and it was one of those "mom celebrations." We've worked hard to get to the point where mom, dad, and what we say and do matter most. That we are trusted, and strangers are not. WooHoo!
And then to top it all off, when we walked in the door out of Suki's mouth came, "Mom, can we have a talk about feelings?" Goodness, talk about a win! Of course, we could talk about feelings. A couple years ago we didn't even know what feelings were. And so we did, and because Suki trusts me to keep his feelings close and safe, I'll hold the rest of the celebration in my heart.
I've been busy these days...nothing exciting necessarily, but just in the thick of parenting, holidays, work, life. My blog has suffered, but I am determined not to give it up. It helps to keep track of the progress our family has made. I'm working not to be so sporadic, and I miss the recipes, but I'm still looking for ways to build cultural connections for our family. So keep checking in... and I will, too.
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